Words of Wisdom

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“…picking a side of the fence, doing what is good and right, even in the face of opposition…. brings peace.”

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“People do foolish things when they let fear rule their lives. Take a breath. Another. Remember to breathe. Go make your luck.”

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“Bullies suck.”

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“Refunds don’t suck.”

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“Mean people suck.”

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“Happiness is sitting in the sun waiting for my class to come out so we can all go home after a good day of work.”

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“We are each a piece of the puzzle of life.  Without each of us, our picture is incomplete.”

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from “The Sister of Grendel”

“The fear that had frozen her began to melt. Not by its own accord, but by her own sheer will that it would no longer control her.

Back! She thought fiercely. Her mind brought forth a burst of light so bright that all were blinded from that moment forth.

And with eyes closed, she burst out of the chains, wrenching her arms from her own sockets, it seemed, the pain searing through her arms, her heart, almost, just almost causing her a pause.

But the pain, the fear, and the blood she left behind.”. The Sister of Grendel, page 419

Excerpt from “The Final Stand”

I want to go home, he whispered. A barely audible whisper. Almost a silent prayer. Almost. Don’t let him have heard. Don’t let him have heard.

Well, I want a million dollars, he sneered.

Hold it back. Hold it back. Don’t cry. Don’t cry. Count backwards. 10…9….8…

Oh! Counting backwards, are you? Think it will help, do you? Nothing will help. Nothing will save you. No one can save you.

And the wild, maniacal laughter that had haunted his dreams had become a reality.

The Final Stand, page 187

excerpt from “The Demon of Nachtwethe”

“Have a taste?” came the sweet voice, tinkling through the air.

She stopped. Paused. Turned. A small outstretched hand holding a goblet filled with a liquid, its sweet perfume reaching her, soothing the fiery demon that had just filled her a moment ago.

Breathe, she told herself. Deep breaths. Slow breaths.

She raised her eyes toward the owner of the outstretched hand. “Thank you,” she said evenly. She took the goblet. And no one noticed the fiery demon that was quieted — for the moment.

— The Demon of Nachtwethe, p. 43

Felicia Chew on Culture, Conflict, and Mindfulness

It is important to know the stories, beliefs, and perspectives of our cultural groups, so that we can avoid conflicts like yesterday’s in front of the Lincoln Memorial (where “The March on Washington in 1963 brought 250,000 people to the National Mall and is famous for Martin Luther King Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech.” — Wikipedia)

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NOTE: Please make a conscious choice to whether you will continue to read these thoughts, because once you read them, they cannot be unread.  They are not intended to attack any person or group.  If you decide to continue reading, you may feel offended during the reading.  This is natural.  Anytime our current belief system is challenged, we instinctively become defensive, because our instinct is for survival.  Our blood redirects itself away from our brain, pumps faster into our extremities, ready to run or fight or hide, as needed.  We have begun to enter “crisis mode”, which typically results in fight, flight, or freeze.  A crisis is different to some is not a crisis to others.  Being unable to find a specific toy may be a crisis to someone, because that toy represents a dream of an upcoming playtime.  Being unable to find a particular pair of shoes may be a crisis to someone, because they had a vision of a perfect ensemble to impress someone they are about to meet.  Meeting someone new may result in nervousness, which may be a gateway to a crisis response.  Being surprised by (or with) something unexpected may result in a crisis, as the subconscious brain presents the instinct to survive.  If you choose to continue reading and find yourself upset, I encourage you to check your breathing and your body responses.  Are you taking shorter breaths or holding your breath?  Are you tensing your muscles?  Relax your jaw.  Relax your tongue.  Relax your ears.  Relax your throat.  Relax your hands.  Relax your stomach.  Relax your shoulders.  Breathe… … … … … … And when you are ready, continue to read.  Continue to listen.  Continue to hear perspectives that may be different than yours.  Let your mind ask questions.  Allow yourself to suspend disbelief. Recognize what you can control, what you can influence, and what can only be of concern.  As always, feel free to leave a comment or send a message, or meet with us at First Fridays with Felicia (www.feliciachew.com/firstfridays) or Walk-A-Mile (www.feliciachew.com/walkamile) for conversation, or just to hang out.  /Felicia

Yesterday, a young male of what appears to be European descent stared with apparent defiance in the face of Nathan Phillips, an Elder in the community.

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There have been many conversations defending and attacking the young man.  There have also been conversations defending the young man’s actions.

– “If *he* was “participating”, he should have been chanting.”
– “Nathan Phillips got into *his* space.”
– “*He*’s a kid.  The chaperones / teacher-in-charge / Principal should have done something.”
– “*He* and his classmates were doing a class cheer.”
– “*He* should not have been staring at Nathan Phillips.”
– “*He* thought it was a staring contest, so *he* stared into Nathan Phillips’s face because Nathan Phillips stopped right in front of him and stared at *him*.”

The real problem includes a lack of understanding, and judgments (others’ judgments, and our personal judgments) that we place on culture.  People are becoming more aware and mindful; people are becoming “woke”.  “Woke” folk cling to words like “privilege”, while unwoke folk become recalcitrant, and cling to phrases like “hard work”.  “Woke” folk feel guilty for past transgressions, and have a sense of urgency for righting wrongs, and avoiding future problems.  Unwoke folk see no reason to change.

We can break barriers by participating in meetings like the Mexican American Parent Advisory Council which provides opportunity for voices to be heard, and stories to be shared.

We can ensure that policies, processes, and budgets provide for continued education, and accessible and affordable programs and services (like the Mexican American Parent Advisory Council), that break barriers, and promote healthy boundaries for each of us and all of us, by ensuring that opportunities to share perspectives exist not only in name, but also in practice.

How?

1. Visit spaces where people gather… like laundromats, coffeehouses, grocery stores, rehab centers, banks and credit unions, bookstores… without pomp and circumstance, without news media, person to person, one conversation at a time.  Talk with everyone, and share space with others, including meals with strangers at Dao’s Tai Pan (225 N Wilmot, across the street just south of the Murphy-Wilmot Library).

2. Engage in conversations with electeds, leaders, and supervisors who represent people in their respective fields (like School Superintendents and Library Managers).

3. Amplify the voices of others, by talking about the work they are doing (like Lucia, a student from Tucson High, who spoke about the impacts of mental health on students, at the Call to the Audience at the TUSD Board meeting on January 8, the day Ms. Leila Counts and Ms. Adelita Grijalva were sworn in; and Linda Laird’s work to provide books to classrooms).

4. Be transparent and be accessible.

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Felicia Chew is a trained crisis response volunteer for the Victim Services Division in Pima County.  She is a former classroom teacher, Summer School Prinicipal for Lee Junior High, and former Interventions Coordinator for the Woodland Joint Unified School District.  Felicia served as a member and Chair of the City of Tucson Citizen Police Advisory Review Board.  Felicia served as a member of the Amphitheater Public Schools Community Advisory Council and Teacher Advisory Council.  Felicia served as a Representative of Utterback Magnet Middle School for the Tucson Educators Association. Felicia is a member of the Reid Park Zoo, Flandrau Planetarium, National Organization of Women, Sustainable Tucson, Sonoran Desert Homeschoolers, the Vantage West Credit Union and RepresentUS.  Felicia appears regularly as a guest of Wake Up, Tucson and is becoming a frequent guest on the John C. Scott Show. Felicia is an artist, musician, choreographer, and writer.  Felicia is a presenter for the Environmental Education Exchange, and owner of Felicia Chew Community Projects.  Felicia is campaigning for the District 3 Seat on the Pima County Board of Supervisors (2020).  Felicia is committed to fostering a strong and healthy community for #EachOfUs and #AllOfUs

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“We are each a piece of the puzzle of life. Without each of us, our picture is incomplete.”

Golden Pin Lanes +

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Update June 30, 2019

Unfortunately, this campaign has ended.  Golden Pin Lanes closed its doors at 10pm on Friday, June 21, 2019.  However, our vision for an affordable venue in the Miracle Mile area has not ended.  One model we are looking at is “Pie, Felicia!” , and the campaign has been updated to “Safe Space Project, fka #SaveGoldenPinLanes”

The Original Concept for Golden Pin Lanes + is below:


Felicia Chew Community Project’s vision for Golden Pin Lanes:

A community center that features bowling and adds value to the community. We know that the Bowl has features that have attracted many community groups, bowlers of all levels, tournaments, tourists, and the State Women’s Tournament (the whole reason the County is not closing the Bowl before June 2019)!

The community center would include:
– a toy library
– a little library
– a place for Pima One Stop to set up a table
– a place for WIC and other City and County services to set up tables
– a community board for businesses and services
– home ec/cooking courses
– safe space for people in crisis, where they can meet with someone trained in crisis response, and their children can be kids in a safe space while they parents process and develop a plan
– a food distribution center (e.g. Food Bank, community gardens)
– craft market
– farmer’s market
– movies in the parking lot
– art display and sale space
– tutoring
– English language courses
– citizenship courses
– empowerment courses
– partnership with the Jacob’s Park YMCA, Monterey Court Galleries, Westside Substation, and other businesses along Miracle Mile
– bowling and arcade games (of course)
– bowling tournaments
– referrals to resources
– PE classes (bowling) for kids
– local employees
– internship opportunities

This *sounds* like a lot of services, because it *is* a lot of services! Using the space creatively, we can accommodate these programs and so much more!

We model the space after other existing community spaces. For example, in Gallup, New Mexico, there is a restaurant where Navajo and other Native artisans carry their wares on trays to sell to restaurant customers. The artisans must be approved by the restaurant in order to sell.

POW (Produce On Wheels) already exists. Meet me at Maynard’s already exists. Many services and businesses exist, and Miracle Mile could benefit from these services and businesses as well!

We just need money to buy the Bowl from the County… $2.65 million, which we can do… if everyone in Tucson chipped in $3/each. 🙂 A community center for each of us and all of us.

Please donate if you can, and share our gofundme page:

www.gofundme.com/savegoldenpinlanes (now disabled)

Learn more about Save Golden Pin Lanes at

www.feliciachew.com/savegoldenpinlanes and www.facebook.com/savegoldenpinlanes


 

Bernie’s Platform Is Applicable in Governments Large and Small

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Bernie’s platform (http://www.berniesanders.com/issues) is holistic… unfortunately it is rejected because he is “too old, too white, too male.”

We should remember there is more than one way to reach a goal.  Practices should reflect ones that are acceptable to each of us and all of us.

We must suspend disbelief, think outside of the box, and have vision and courage to try something new. – http://www.feliciachew.com/pimaissues

Universal Healthcare.  People need to be in good health to be productive to their communities.

Free/Affordable Public College.  People need space, time, and opportunity to #think and understand their own, and others’, perceptions and beliefs so they do not respond from pure emotion/crisis.

Transform our energy system.   If we do not change current energy practices, we will use up all of our natural resources, and our planet will die.

Overturn Citizens United.  CU allows corporations to unfairly influence elections with vast sums of money few individuals can match, distorting the public debate, and potentially leading to corruption or the appearance of corruption. – https://represent.us/action/citizens-united-2-2/

Raise the minimum wage to $15.  And allow small businesses to have partnerships which allow them to use alternative forms of compensation.

End the war on drugs.  Fund drug treatment programs and drug awareness programs instead.  Allow criminals to be processed as criminals, and allow sentencing to include comprehensive services for criminals to escape criminal addiction.

Rebuild our crumbling infrastructure.  We need to rebuild it as a flexible infrastructure, not a rigid one.

Raise taxes on the 1%. Taxes are supposed to be used for the good of the entire community.  Ensure the projects allowed by the tax credit system benefit the entire community, not just pet projects, and continue to allow taxes to be “paid” through tax credits, and provide information about how much funding each community project needs and has received.

Stop endless military spending.  Provide for the common defense… where “commoners” can defend themselves and the ones they love.  The strongest defense is a strong mind.

Expand Social Security. Current social security recipients paid into social security benefits, and are not receiving them, due to corporations destroying the retirement dreams of millions over the past 30 years by eliminating defined benefit pension plans, and Wall Street’s recklessness crashing the economy in 2008.  If we lift the cap on the taxable income that goes into social security, it would “extend the solvency of Social Security for the next 50 years, bring in enough revenue to expand benefits by an average of $65 a month; increase cost-of-living-adjustments; and lift more seniors out of poverty by increasing the minimum benefits paid to low-income seniors.” – https://berniesanders.com/issues/strengthen-and-expand-social-security/

End police brutality.  End the misconception that the best way to control others is through the use of force.

Demilitarize the police.  A well-organized militia is necessary in times of crisis.  However, for day-to-day activities, pro-active measures are more likely to reduce the likelihood of potential crime.