dealing with trauma

…before it eats us all alive.  Trauma affects each of us and all of us.  Let’s break the cycle.

**Please note:  This article requires the reader to suspend disbelief, and remove themselves from the echo chambers that exist in their circles.  “If we keep doing what we’ve done, we’re gonna keep gettin’ what we’ve got.”  We require solutions that include perspectives of all community members.  Effective solutions require the understanding that we are all unique individuals who need one another to survive.  Without customers, there is no income for businesses.  Some of us may believe that “only the strong should survive”.  It is important to remember that even the tiny bees and mosquitoes are an equal part of the equation.  There is no “weakest link”.  Together, everyone achieves more.

An Example of Trauma

Trauma can manifest itself in the most surprising and disturbing ways, including a teacher cutting out chunks of her student’s hair, being arrested, and having a $100,000 bond.

The Red for Ed movement started as a grassroots movement, pointing out the stressors that teachers were finally able to bring up to the community.  Unfortunately, the solution that was presented by what became the organization turned to common solutions: MONEY.

It is time to recognize that MONEY does not solve the problem.  MONEY does not take away the frustrations from feeling like there is not enough TIME and too much WORK and too many HOOPS to jump through.


Where does trauma come from?

Trauma stems from the frustrations of speaking out and being DISMISSED time and time and time again.

Trauma comes from being told over and over again to DO SOMETHING that is MORALLY WRONG or UNETHICAL.

Trauma comes from being told that you must TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM over and over.

Trauma comes from being told that YOU DON’T MATTER as much as SOMEONE ELSE.

Trauma comes from the JUSTIFICATION by someone in a “RESPECTED” position who has more AUTHORITY than you do.

Trauma is SYSTEMIC in our CULTURE.

The cycle of trauma must be broken.

How We Can Break the Cycle of Trauma

***Please note that the next two sections provides discussion based on what I know about in regards to current policies, processes, practices, and budget.  There may be some inaccuracies, and if there are, I apologize in advance.  If some of the policies, processes, and practices are already in effect, that is FANTASTIC!  We must continue to do the work to ensure that policies, practices, and processes are EFFECTIVE.  Policies, processes, and practices should be flexible, not set in rock.  Think of a sea captain navigating their ship through uncharted territories.  They have an idea of where they are going, and they must be prepared and flexible to navigate unforeseen obstacles and dangers, to help the ship remain safe on the journey.***

We can break the cycle of trauma by RECOGNIZING that many of our community members are in unrecognized and unacknowledged CRISIS.  Crisis leads individuals to respond in one of three ways:  FIGHT, FLIGHT, or FREEZE.  When we have UNRECOGNIZED and UNRESOLVED CRISES, they become UNRESOLVED and UNRECOGNIZED TRAUMA.  We then have a community where individuals are FIGHTING, FREEZING, and taking FLIGHT – refusing to ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY.

We can break the cycle of trauma by RECOGNIZING that TRAUMA is SYSTEMIC.  POLICIES, PRACTICES, and BUDGETS contribute to the CYCLE OF TRAUMA.

We can break the cycle of trauma by SPEAKING UP when we witness or learn of individuals who are being CONTROLLED or MANIPULATED.  We can say something to the BULLIES (“Hey, that’s not okay.  Don’t do that.”) and something to the VICTIMS (“I am sorry that happened.  It is not okay.  How can I be helpful to you?”)

We can break the cycle of trauma by providing opportunity for, and engaging in RESTORATIVE PRACTICES.  We know that the SCHOOL to PRISON PIPELINE is not a myth.  We have evidence.  We have begun teaching our local law enforcement officers about IMPLICIT BIAS.  However, we are still so ENTRENCHED in our BIASES and PREJUDICES that we have a long way to go.

We can break the cycle of trauma by providing HAPPY and HEALTHY opportunities for interaction.  We should have regular fairs and events in our city and county  that are affordable and accessible to all community members.  This weekend is the 4th Avenue Street Faire.  Services are increased and transportation is free.  This is a great start.  We must continue to focus on these issues, AND we must continue to focus on having celebrations IN OUR NEIGHBORHOODS.  Thanks to LIVING STREETS ALLIANCE  and the City for the work with CYCLOVIA and TUGO.   We need COMMUNITY CENTERS and a wide variety of ACTIVITIES for all ages.  GOLDEN PIN LANES.

We can break the cycle of trauma by EDUCATING OURSELVES AND OTHERS about control, ego, perspectives, cultures.  Schools and Libraries should be community centers, open 24/7 for educating members of our community.  The Downtown Library closes early on the weekends.

We can break the cycle of trauma by UPDATING POLICIES and PROVIDING MONEY to BUDGETS for funding PROGRAMS and SERVICES that are EFFECTIVE.

We can break the cycle of trauma by recognizing that EFFECTIVENESS comes before EFFICIENCY.

We can break the cycle of trauma by recognizing that WE are important, WE have power, WE are a piece of the PUZZLE of life.

Policies, Practices, and Budgets to Break the Cycle of Systemic Trauma

Economics and Businesses.  Pima County and The City of Tucson, thanks in part to the work of Old Pueblo Community Services,  have recognized that Housing First is a must for taking people out of the cycle of economic stress.  Pima County One Stop is an excellent program that provides job training and resources for individuals to become CONTRIBUTING members of our ECONOMY.  This is an important first step.  We also need FINANCIAL EDUCATION about Wants and Needs which Primavera provided (I am unsure if these same services are provided under Cenpatico).

What we can do:  Provide economic support to businesses in the community.  Work with businesses to eliminate duplicity, and also to practice ethical business practices.  Same goes for families and individuals who find themselves turning to criminal activities because there aren’t so many rules and regulations.

Housing.  It is time to recognize that “Traditional” housing is not the best for all community members.  There are reasons why some individuals may not want to have “Permanent’ housing.  Shutting down “homeless” camps happened not only in the City of Tucson but also in Yolo County.  The reasons given include:  lack of sanitation.

If that is the true reason, the fix is simple:  Provide waste management services.  Update policies so that composting, and other sustainable and natural ways of reducing what goes into the landfill is supported.  Implement policies and practices that reduce the amount of single-use plastics and materials and products that are not recyclable or reusable.  Update policies and practices to allow the use of “Waste Materials” as building materials.  Open up the bathrooms, so individuals who are homeless have somewhere to defecate, urinate, engage in healthy hygiene practices. 

This could be solved by having 24-hour libraries, schools, and community centers.  Use community members to volunteer to staff these facilities; follow the model of the  Pima County Attorney’s Office Victim Services program to staff the centers.

Cultural and Ethnicity.  In spite of the conversations and attacks about “White privilege”, a lack of understanding in the differences of culture is still prevalent.  Children bully other children for wearing “non-standard” clothing.  And our policies and practices say that bullying will not be tolerated and actually implement DRESS CODES that require individuals to CONFORM to STANDARD PRACTICES.

What we can do:  It is time that we ask ourselves:  WHERE EXACTLY DID THESE STANDARDS COME FROM?  WHY WERE THEY IMPLEMENTED?  WHY ARE THEY STILL IN PRACTICE?  Instead of requiring members of our community to ASSIMILATE, we must encourage CONVERSATION and RELATIONSHIPS  between community members.  We must teach those who are FEARFUL of losing their culture that HUMAN RIGHTS exist to prevent them from losing who they are. 

Social.  We LAUGH AT jokes about women making sandwiches.  We spout “Snitches get stitches” even when talking about the ELF ON THE SHELF who was decapitated by the family dog.  We jump on the bandwagon and DEMONIZE individuals like Roseanne Barr, and Bill Cosby.  Do you remember when MICHAEL JACKSON was held under a suspicious gaze by many members of the community for his relationships with young people?  He was not crucified like Roseanne and Bill were crucified.

What we can do:  We can stop justifying and arguing that the situation was different.  Because in the end, it boils down to the lack of INDIVIDUAL RESPONSIBILITY, and a sense of ENTITLEMENT by people using social media TOOLS to spread ugliness in our communities.

Christianity and Language  Christianity has long been used to guide many community members through life.  It is easier to GIVE SOMETHING TO someone else, than it is to go through the process of UNDERSTANDING what happened.  Understanding the process is what allows us to identify where the errors were made, and how we can take different paths.  RELIGION itself is not the problem.  RELIGIOUS TRUTH TWISTERS are the ones who come skilled with “gifts” of.

What we can do:  Tell those who judge with CHRISTIANITY that it is necessary to turn the page, or to look at the examples of the PHARISEES and the SADDUCEES.  Remind them that it is important to remember the teaching of Lucifer, the angel of darkness, and the seven deadly sins, the ten commandments.  Remind them to remember he first Commandment:  Thou shalt have no other gods before me.  Couple that with the teachings that the Trinity exists, and the Holy Spirit resides in each of us… everyone is a piece of god; therefore no one is above another.  Remind them of the fourth commandment.  Thou shalt not kill.  And yet, we daily kill others, without thought or remorse.

We can teach about manipulation of language and other manipulative tactics in our public schools, and to the community at large.

Gender.  One of the biggest current controversies regarding gender is RESTROOMS.

What we can do:  We can have unisex restrooms.  We can reinstate the folks who used to work in the restrooms, handing out towels, etc.  And yes, we can have separate restroom stalls for individuals who have had too much to drink, and need to vomit.

Political.  We can end corruption through following the leadership of groups like Represent US, and the work of local activists.  Of course, we must work carefully, and separate the emotional responses to create reasonable solutions.  However, we cannot silence the voices that have been silenced for so long.

What we can do: 

  • End gerrymandering.  Call it out when we see it.  
  • Accessible Calls to the Audience
  • Ranked Voting.
  • Term Limits 
  • Transparency and Accessibility to the public.
  • Equitable and Ethical Campaigning Practices. 
    • The City’s practice of doubling campaign monies in clean elections does not work.  $15k gives $15k.  $45k gives $45k.  An additional $30k given to one candidate over another.  I don’t even make $30k in a year.
    • The City puts out information on propositions, etc.  Candidates should have a write up in the voter information booklet.  This could be paid for by candidates’ campaigns.
    • Change the rule regarding donations to the campaign (e.g. Materials donated to the campaign must be included in the campaign spending limit)  The reasons for this rule is understandable, and that could be disclosed through news reports on the campaign.
    • Policies on the size and number of campaign signs.  If a campaign exceeds the number of signs, they must provide an equal number of signs for the other candidates, or they may withdraw from the race
    • Required standard statement by candidates to counter the media’s requirement of having to interview all candidates in order to run an article or story.  This would need to be coupled with a policy that dictates the necessity to provide adequate time for the candidate or candidate’s team to respond.  Contrary to what may be espoused, the world is not going to end if the general public does not know until a week later that a candidate ordered a drink at a bar, and allegedly refused to pay for said drink, without getting the candidate’s perspective, or the whole story.
  • Ethical practices by news reporters, producers, etc.

Criminal and Punitive.  Research and recommendations are resurfacing in regards to punitive consequences which may be perceived as effective in the short term, but are ineffective in the long term.  Our jails are overcrowded.  Many correction facilities lack the support to meet individuals where they are, to provide support for developing empathy.  A belief exists among community members that individuals who do not display empathy are incapable of developing empathy.

What we can do:

  • Use restorative practices in schools.  Use the model of the Teen Court in school settings.
  • Teach empathy, empowerment.
  • Educate family members of perpetrators of crime, and get the community involved, as in mentors and other support services.  
  • Encourage local businesses to adopt a family, and help the family experience happiness and health in their daily lives.
  • Stop the culture of blame.
  • Stop the culture of shame.
  • See something, say something.  Develop a sense of community responsibility.
  • Change the culture from “Snitches get stitches” to “People who grow up being bullies often become criminals who may steal from and hurt you and your family.
  • Decriminalize marijuana.  Educate the community on the concerns of the THC levels being stronger in marijuana that is produced through hydroponics, and other methods.
  • Decriminalize homelessness.
  • Include coercive control in domestic violence statutes.
  • Include animal abuse in domestic violence statutes.
  • Train business owners and employees (the entire community) in First Aid, CPR, and crisis response.

Education.  Our current education system does not support parents and teachers.  Our current education system uses processes that are deemed to be best for “traditional” families, not single parent homes, or families who work two or three jobs to make ends meet.

  • Make it easier to volunteer in schools.  One of the biggest concerns for classroom teachers is not having enough time to reach all students.  Use Gardner’s Multiple Intelligences to provide opportunities for all learners to understand and express themselves.
  • Support school-business partnerships
  • Support school-research partnerships
  • Support school-community partnerships
  • Support partnerships.
  • Train business owners and employees (the entire community) in First Aid, CPR, and crisis response.
  • Combine “Business meetings” with Fun activities.

Courts and Statutes. There are current Court practices that make it difficult to seek justice and have justice served.  These include Court fees, Judges who are inflexible; Statutes that have loopholes.

What we can do:

  • Provide more lay legal people.
  • Simplify statutes
  • Use Court investigators
  • Use Court advocates

Wisdom.  We have lost our way with wisdom.  Terms like “Nerd” “Teacher’s Pet” and other name-calling used to dismiss and demean individuals seeking wisdom have resulted in shame, and guilt.  Gaslighting is a common technique used by bullies, perpetrators of domestic violence, and even members of the community, without understanding the effects on others.

What we can do:

  • Recognize that implementing a fine on some individuals does not solve the problem; it simply exacerbates the problem.
  • Recognize that most people do the best that they can do.
  • Recognize that most people want to do the right thing, but might not know how to, or might be afraid to do so.
  • Recognize that we are human.
  • Use active listening
  • Practice empathy.
  • Think creatively and complexly.
  • Embrace humanity.
  • Embrace wisdom.



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How to Speak Up

It is okay to change your position

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Not sure what to say? Try this process:

  1. Listen and evaluate.
  2. Ask clarification questions.
  3. Speak up.
  4. Share evidence/reasons.

(Repeat #1-4)

Continue with this process, knowing that:

  1. Decisions are based on provided evidence;
  2. When we speak up, our perspectives help shape the best solution;
  3. It is okay to change our position based on new evidence and/or lack of evidence.

Thanks for being brave, and speaking up!

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Stop the Bullies

They become perpetrators of domestic violence.

When you realize that over half of your life has been dealing with trauma… and your kids’ entire lives have been filled with trauma… and someone calls you a professional victim… you just have to let it go. Because if you don’t, it festers in your soul. And you can’t move on. You’re frozen. Breath leaves you.

People say that Democrats can’t be responsible. Democrats are entrenched. All of these generalizations, stereotypes.

When you realize your whole life has been faced with racism and sexism, and you recognize that your story is different enough from others’, and the words you use are lost in translation… you have a choice. Always a choice.

To press on. To rest.

So you ground yourself. Feel the earth beneath you. And rest.

– A Survivor’s Story, page 322

Ways to respond to a bully:
1. Say: “That’s not nice. Don’t say that.”
2. Say: “There’s nothing wrong with crying.”
3. (Don’t engage.) Be concise.  Use the “Broken Record” strategy
4. Use wit.
5. Kick ’em in the nuts.

Assault is constant, so… we learn about, understand, and set boundaries.

Unfortunately, some bullies will see that as a challenge, so we stand firmly with flexibility, and eventually that will wear them down… the natural bobbing and weaving, where they grow tired because they cannot evolve.

The problem is that bullies will move on to the next victim. So, we continue with outreach, and to educate, advocate, empower, and teach empathy. ❤

“We must end bullying, because bullies grow up to be perpetrators of domestic violence.”

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The purpose of Felicia Chew Community Projects is to create happy, healthy communities, by providing opportunity for #EachOfUs and #AllOfUs to be empowered through sharing stories, art, perspectives, and wisdom; while teaching Empathy, and providing examples and opportunity for Restorative Practices, because we are Each  a Piece of the Puzzle of Life.  “Without each of us, our picture is incomplete.  Unfortunately  explanations are labeled excuses hy gaslighted and people which do not understand coercive control.  Many people are easily manipulated because they have forgotten how to (or never learned to) #THINK.

To learn more about our work on ending systemic domestic violence,  visit us at 

Epic Rap Battle – FC vs PD

FC: You raised a lot of money/ three times as much as me/ and you spent it on huge mailers/ to crucify me/ they were really really large and they barely fit/ in people’s mailboxes/ properly.

PD: You were a newcomer and I am entrenched/ I’ve got Mayor and others/ in my back pocket/ People know me and they trust me/ for the most part/ People were confused about you/ but you’ve got a big heart.

FC: A compliment you’ve given me/ I’ll give one in return/ But I’ve gotta let you know it might be a sick burn/ Like you care about Solar and Sustainability/ But whatcha gonna do about Systemic Poverty?

PD: You will be so surprised/ With what I do/ You think I don’t get it/ But I was poor, too.

FC: We need better bus systems/ we need equity/ for the people who are living/ in Poverty/ they can’t get to no damn meetings/ in the middle of the day/ without losing a huge chunk/ of their pay.

PD: I’ve got big plans/ to solve these problems that we have/ I might not have manners/ but don’t worry about that/ cause I’ll have a good team/ on the Ward 3 staff/ and we’ll make some changes/ I promise you that.

This rap was inspired by the Elon Musk vs. Mark Zuckerburg – Epic Rap Battles of History  Watch the video at


We’re Doing It Wrong

Sustainable Gatorade, A Shot of Vodka, YHWH, Language, Fear, Crisis for All, Blue Bloods

We’re doing it wrong.  All of it.  Okay, maybe just a lot of it.

  • Education
  • Crime
  • Politics
  • Environmentalism
  • Parenting

This is an episode of raw, because I just had a glass of sustainable Gatorade with a shot of vodka.  What, you ask, is a glass of sustainable Gatorade?  It is a glass of Gatorade that I have begun making for my son’s basketball team, because I got tired of watching all of the plastic wrap and single use containers that were going into the trash.  One of my hashtags is #OurChildrenAreWatching… that includes when we have end of the game snacks for our kids.  (No, a shot of vodka is not added to their Gatorade).

A shot of vodka, while it can be frowned upon by some folks in our communities, really should not be frowned upon.  Fermented drinks are often seen as beverages that help medicinally, or otherwise, in many indigenous cultures.  It is only in America, where we are still a young country, where we find ourselves still in our adolescent years, confused emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and much more.  We argue over words.  We argue over politics.  We argue because our ego and self override our sense of community.

And yet, so many individuals in America hold high their value and honor to God.  Not YHWH, but to God… a God who they have so many interpretations of.  My interpretation:

IF there exists God – The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit; The Holy Spirit resides in each of us (so we are each God); and Thou shalt have no other gods before me;

THEN none of us is above any of us.

Back to words:

  • Toilet to tap versus recycled (or better yet, reclaimed) water.
  • Homeschooling versus unschooling.
  • Oriental versus Asian.
  • Illegal versus undocumented.
  • Excessive discipline versus abuse.
  • Community activism versus crime.  Watching Blue Bloods, Law and Order SVU, Criminal Minds, and more gives me a perspective from law enforcement, albeit via tv shows.  The thing about tv shows is that we know that it is realistic fiction.  Now, when we watch the news, we are sometimes unsure if it is realism or fiction.
  • Childlike versus childish.
  • He or she versus they.
  • Committeman versus committeeperson.
  • Fat versus fluffy.

Fear ends up guiding most of our actions these days. Fear freezes.  Fear causes flight.  Fear causes fight.  Some of us call it Crisis Management.  Some of us call it being a Snowflake.  Some of us call it being weak.  Some of us call it being an Activist.  So many names for so many ways to deal with FEAR.

We’re dong it wrong.

We are trying to force, manipulate, coerce individuals into actions against their will, through the use of guilt, shame, and fear.

I’m tired, Boss.  I’m tired of the fighting, the flight, the freezing.  We need new systems, new processes.  We need to throw out the bath water.  We need to throw out the concept of an eye-for-an-eye, and we need to embrace peace, empathy, love, wisdom, forgiveness, compassion, freedom, choice.

Have a shot of vodka.  Go to a shooting range. Play a video game. Pull the handle of a slot machine.  Buy your kid a mobile device.  Because all of these “sins” are a part of life.  Controlling and manipulating our youth into (or away from) the “sins” of the world cause nothing but harm.  People say:  “The grass is greener on the other side”.  “Leave no stone unturned.” “Ask questions.” “Just say no.” “Just do it.”  With so many idioms (even though Animal Rights folks are working to change “Kill two birds with one stone” to “Kill two birds with one scone” (Glutenist)) we must recognize that WE CANNOT CONTROL what others do or say.  However, we CAN CONTROL the way that we react and respond.

Punitive measures serve no purpose than to further enrage or confuse the accused.  Crisis affects each of us and all of us.  Victims and perpetrators.  No, this is not victim-blaming.  This is fact.  (Stop the distractions.  Pay attention to everything.  All of the details.  Don’t just follow the crowd.  Stop listening to echo chambers.  If we keep doing things the way we have been doing them, we’re gonna keep getting what we’ve got.)

Time to finish watching Blue Bloods.  Trying to figure out who called homeland security on a community activist.

Viva la revolucion para la paiz.

“We are each a piece of the puzzle of life.  Without each of us, our picture is incomplete.”

Chairman Elias Wants to Save Golden Pin Lanes!!

Members of the Core Team met with Chairman Elias yesterday morning. The following is an excerpt of a follow-up email to Chairman Elias, and members of the community including County Supervisors and Administrator, and Mayor and Council:

1. There appears to be a desire to Save Golden Pin Lanes by electeds, as evidenced by the meetings that have been held and are scheduled over the next two weeks, including meetings with yourself, Supervisor Bronson, Councilman Durham, Mr. Huckelberry, and City Parks and Rec Director Davis

2. A decision must be made this month in order for Golden Pin Lanes league bowlers to re-commit to the Bowl.

3. My understanding is that your concern is to have a County owned facility in the Miracle Mile area to provide service to nearby residents who may be dependent on public transportation, specifically the women in need of support services. This is honorable, respectful, and makes sense. It would also be honorable, respectful, and make sense to continue to improve transportation services to keep open Golden Pin Lanes, which provides temporary respite for individuals, including women, walking along Miracle Mile during the heat of the day, and which also provides quality, affordable entertainment for people with lower incomes, and which also provides jobs for members of our community.

4. My understanding is that the City owns the land behind the Westside substation. It has been suggested that the City and County trade parcels (Golden Pin Lanes for the parcel behind the Westside substation). This would make sense, and could follow the model of the Eastside substation and library facilities, while integrating the other facilities that are outlined for the Golden Pin Lanes parcel. I have also contacted Mayor Rothschild regarding the City operating Golden Pin Lanes under the City Parks and Rec program.

5. The Press release is attached for reference.

1. Is the County open to a land trade of equal value with the City (specifically to trade Golden Pin Lanes for a City owned parcel in the desired location)?

2. Would you support this trade?

3. If this trade is supported and approved, can bowlers be informed, so they can sign up for 2019 leagues?

1. Saving Golden Pin Lanes is important and significant to members of the Core Team and members of the community. We have submitted over 1000 signatures on paper petitions, and have approximately 400 online signatures.

2. The inability to move this process along more quickly was due to uncertainty of who to contact to move the process along.

3. The lack of attendance at all Calls to the Audience is not due to disinterest in Saving Golden Pin Lanes, but for many reasons, including work schedule conflicts.

Felicia Chew
Save Golden Pin Lanes
Resident, Pima County, District 3

The press release

For immediate release:

Contact: Felicia Chew


Call/Text: 520.909.3888



The public is invited to the following Meetings and Sessions to provide input regarding the decision by Pima County to close Golden Pin Lanes.

December 3, 2018. 10am Meet with Chairman Elias.  1st floor of the administration building. 120 W Congress Street.

December 4, 2018. 10am. Call to the Audience at Pima County Supervisors Meeting. 120 W Congress Street.

December 4, 2018. 5:30pm. Call to the Audience at Mayor and Council Meeting.  255 W. Alameda.

December 7, 2018. 6:30-8:30pm.  First Fridays with Felicia Bowling FUNdraiser at Golden Pin Lanes.  $10 for 2 hours of bowling, includes shoes and raffle ticket. Additional raffle tickets available for purchase.  Sponsor a bowler! (Save Golden Pin Lanes –– and First Fridays with Felicia – are a part of Felicia Chew Community Projects.  For more info on Projects, visit 1010 W Miracle Mile Road.

December 17, 2018.  9am. Meet with City of Tucson Parks and Rec Director Brent Dennis at the Parks and Rec Conference Room. Randolph Way.

December 18, 2018. 10am. Call to the Audience at Pima County Supervisors Meeting.  120 W Congress Street.

December 18, 2018. 5:30pm Call to the Audience at Mayor and Council Meeting.  255 W Alameda.


Unfortunately, I am not at the discussion session, as I am doing presentations this morning.
The meeting should be in session now.  Some of the members of our Core Team are there.  Look for Kathene (Kathy) Morrow and Rosemary Bolza.
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I texted Rosemary.  Kathy is set to do most of the talking, and I don’t want to disturb her.  I am attaching a photo of all of us 🙂
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Oops!  Here is the photo of our Core Team… (L-R)  me, Rosemary Bolza, Kathene (Kathy) Morrow, Hanson Fotherby… at last month’s “First Fridays with Felicia” at Golden Pin Lanes (which is this Friday, if you want to attend a FUNdraiser to help end systemic domestic violence).

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I heard Hanson did the interview!  Thanks so much for coming out to talk with the group!  Are you able to provide me with a link to the report, and if/when the report will air?
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Time is Running Out…

Talking Points for Saving Golden Pin Lanes

Please attend a public input session, or write a letter to Mr. Huckelberry and the Supervisors, and Mayor and Council.  For dates, locations, and addresses, go to

Golden Pin Lanes is an economic asset to Tucson.

The Bowling center is making money.   It was sold because the owner wants to retire.   The bowling center and pro shop jobs will be lost if it is converted to County services, since the County is relocating services (not increasing services).  Also, through bowling tournaments money comes into Tucson when people travel to Tucson to participate in the tournaments.

Golden Pin Lanes contributes to the health of Tucson.  Bowling is one of the few exercises viable in Tucson in the summer.   It is accessible to all ages, and has adjustments to allow the differently-abled to bowl.

Bowling is important to combat substance abuse.  If Bowling is added to Parks and Recreation offerings, it will engage young people and let them have fun which will make drug use less appealing.

Golden Pin Lanes will/can add resilience to this part of Tucson by serving as a cooling station in times of temperatures over 105 degrees.

Golden Pin Lanes is important as a justice issue.

Bowling is accessible to many people with disabilities it provides fairness in recreation.    The City has golf courses and should also promote bowling.

The Golden Pins Bowling Center can help facilitate the revitalization of the Miracle Mile area.   Saving the bowling center will send the message to residents of this area that the County and City care about their well-being and respect them.   It can lead to historical tourism and a dynamic area.





Homelessness During The Holidays, and Any Day…

Listen.  Have empathy.  Empower others.  Realize that most of us are doing the best that we can.

About homelessness…. there are many reasons for a person’s homelessness.

Have you ever stopped to speak to homeless persons?

People become homeless after…
…leaving a violent relationship;
…caring for an aging parent or a sick child, and running out of sick days and being terminated;
…being unable to live in four walls due to PTSD, anxiety, other challenges;
…and so many other stories…

We have some ideas for “helping the homeless”.  And many of those ideas include forcing people to conform to what is “convenient” for us.

Homelessness should not be viewed as an “inconvenience” to you.  Homelessness is not about you.  Homelessness is about gaps in the community.

We make up stories to scare the community… stories about homeless persons being criminals, monsters, thieves, rapists, spreaders of diseases.

We say we want things to be “better” for them.

In reality,  we want things to be “better” for ourselves.

During this “Holiday” season, I ask that we take time to reflect on the lessons we are teaching our children when we
– hurry our children by a homeless person;
– make derogatory comments;
– wrinkle our noses in disgust, or pity;
– close down public restrooms;
– refuse service to people who appear to be homeless;
– place “anti-homeless” devices on bus benches and park benches;
– mock and shame those who are homeless;
– close down camps where homeless find safety, security, and family.

Instead, invite a homeless person to sit with you for a meal, or pick up something to go…  I am not asking you to buy someone a ten-course meal… just a slice of pizza, or a Sonoran dog, or a hamburger… and to have a conversation, and let them know that they do matter.  Listen.  Have empathy.  Empower others.  Realize that most of us are doing the best that we can.

#EndTheStigma #BreakTheCycle #NotJustASafetyPin

“We are each a piece of the puzzle of life.  Without each of us our picture is incomplete.”