Raising Arizona

We Have Partnered With Raising Arizona…

Today is November 6… Domestic Violence Awareness Month was last month, and I wrote every day, except for on Day 31…

I am a survivor, getting stronger to be a thriver. It is exhausting and disappointing and frustrating and I have to squint and tilt my head sideways sometimes to see the world that I know exists without the mind games and struggle. I go to therapy regularly and use CBT and EMDR and share information with others on how we can work to make things better.

In an effort to be transparent about what it is like to be in an abusive relationship, I coordinated the Domestic Violence Awareness Series (2019). I committed to sharing a little about my journey every day last month. I understand that many folks won’t understand, and will tell me I am playing the victim card… this is why I am committed to sharing daily.

I saw some of you at the Series. You brought a friend or two or three, so we could empower victims and end the cycle of abuse.

If you missed it, learn more about the Series at http://www.feliciachew.com/dvas, and see the videos at http://www.feliciachew.com/dvvideos.


Day after Election Day 2019… Prop 205 was unsuccessful, and the status quo remains the same… because when you keep doing what you’ve done, you’re gonna keep gettin’ what you’ve got… except…

Except folks have spoken up through #YESon205 and at the 2019 Domestic Violence Awareness Series #TheSameButDifferent about why it is important to make a change in Tucson and Pima County.

We have learned that victims of domestic violence are afraid to speak up, for fear of deportation, for fear of being murdered when they try to leave, for fear of losing their children.

I am encouraged by the number of folks who spoke up for Sanctuary, and who share their stories to bring Awareness to the problems we experience in our Court Systems, law enforcement, DCS, and while there are some positive outcomes, there are many negative outcomes.

Children are taken from parents. Children are separated from parents. Whether they are undocumented parents, or protective parents, our current system allows for the traumatic separation of families.

We can make a difference. We can speak up. There is more work to be done. Rest. Grieve. Then rise up again.

The earth is rumbling as a write this morning. Mother Earth knows that her children are unsafe. Friends, and those with who I am not friends, and might never be friends… it is time to set aside petty differences and realize that we are each a piece of the puzzle of life. Without each of us, our picture is incomplete.

Learn more about the work being done to break this cycle. Thanks for visiting us here at http://www.feliciachew.com/raisingarizona.

#StopTheShame #StopTheBlame #OurChildrenAreWatching #TheSameButDifferent #ListenBelieveBeKind

The Problem

  • Children are being taken from protective parents.
  • Children are being bullied and not believed.
  • Children are being traumatized.

The Stories

  • There are many stories.  You can share yours anonymously.

The Resources

  • Resources for creating communities that are safe for all of us, not just some of us.

What We Can Do

  • We can speak up.
  • We can support one another.
  • We can believe one another

Connect with us at feliciachew19@gmail.com or by phone or text at 520.909.3888.  Sign up to receive text updates by texting @endsy to 81010.  Sign the Petition to end coercive control at Change.org.