Our Mission is to End Systemic Domestic Violence. Domestic violence perpetuates due to the struggle for Power and Control. We and our communities struggle with Power and Control in most aspects, especially in Politics.
The end to Domestic Violence is when victims and survivors have a Choice of whether they remain in the Power Dynamic. The end to Systemic Domestic Violence is when the Court systems, and Societal Norms change so that victims and survivors are not forced to stay in situations where they have no Control.
While there are many physical acts of violence, including final acts of homicide and suicide, there are also many plays for Power and Control over another individual through the use of Coercive Control. On the offender side, it is important to identify when actions are for Power gain, and when they are subconscious actions resulting from implicit bias, cultural norms, etc.
Power and Control Awareness Activity: Struggle For Power and Control – Joe Biden and Politics
Background: Joe Biden has been faced with the challenge of changing his habits, due to concerns from community members of how his “touching” made them uncomfortable.
Question: Is Joe Biden “creepy Joe Biden” or simply a man who uses the Physical Touch Language of The 5 Love Languages?
Activity: Consider the following images, which tell the story of Joe and his history of “touching”. Ask yourself questions like:
1. What is the source of the photos (e.g. Business Insider)
2. What are the goals of those who shared information (to Inform? to Persuade? If it is to Persuade, what is their hidden message?)
3. How long does it take to change a habit?
4. Is the information accurate?
5. When is it “bad” to touch someone?
6. When is it “approrpiate” to touch someone?
7. How do you feel when someone touches you without permission?
8. How do you feel when someone touches you with permission?
9. Is Joe Biden trying to control and demean women and girls?
10. Is someone working to spin Joe Biden into a negative light?
Drawing Conclusions: Your conclusion may be different from another person’s conclusion. Remember that is okay. We can choose to find additional information to support our claim. We have the ability to identify if the information is fabricated, or truthful, or somewhere in between. We have the Power to “Let it go”. We have the Power to recognize that we cannot change something or someone else, we cannot control someone or something else, but we can use coping skills to cope with someone or something else.
We have the right and the responsibility to feel anger, love, and any other emotion that we experience.
Others may attempt to control your actions, thoughts, and speech. They may do so under the pretense of love. Remember: The opposite of Love is Control.
That being said, It is not necessary to “Throw the baby out with the bath water”; however, it is important to recognize that Healthy Boundaries include loving touch, loving words, and love.
Learn more about our Projects and work to End Systemic Domestic Violence at www.feliciachew.com
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