It is possible to have a whole new world where we can believe victims, and also believe that perpetrators did the best that they could in their situation.
We can believe different truths.
We can have community responsibility, empathy, and individual responsibility.
We need programs that keep people out of crisis mode.
We need programs, policies, processes, and budgets that do not perpetuate systemic abuses of power and control.
We need processes that keep us focused and intentional on making things better.
We need processes that bring us happiness and that spark joy.
If they don’t spark joy, release them. That includes policies.
We don’t need to blame them or shame them. Thank them, and move on.