A woman rode into town one morning with a beautiful, magnificent, slendorific, amazing hat upon her head. Clip clop clip clop clip clop went the horse’s hooves. And the villagers, so full of gossip, were of course standing at the entrance of the village, in two straight columns along the sides of the rode, as the woman rode between them.
They watched her (more specifically her hat) as she (it) rode through town, until they could see her (it) no more. Then, the excited conversation began: “That was an amazingly gorgeous brilliant ruby red on that hat! I have never seen anything quite like it!” But across the road, the conversation was quite different: “That was a beautiful dazzling blue, deeper than the blue of the sea, and brighter than the blue of the sky!”
Eventually, the two groups became aware of the other’s comments. “It was blue!” they shouted. “It was red!” came the response. “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” and throughout the day they argued, taking shifts to eat there morning snack, their lunch, their afternoon snack, so their argument could continue: “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” “Blue!” “Red!” And it did continue, throughout the afternoon, into the evening when they heard the woman and her horse coming back from business toward them at the entrance to the town.
The arguing stopped.
All eyes were eagerly anticipating the hat (and the woman). Not a one spoke as it (and she) rode out of town.
Then there was a stunned silence.
“How could…” “Did you see…” “I thought…” “Wait a minute…”
You see, half of the woman’s hat was blue, while the other half was red. Depending on the perspective of the villager, the hat looked completely different.
There is no right and no wrong. It is all based on perspective. Someone who is color-blind may have seen the hat a different color. In fact, how do we know that what we call “red” is what another person also sees as “red”?
Until we recognize that the Red Hat is only a Red Hat when we see it from that perspective, and until we stop shaming and blaming others for “not seeing it correctly” — we will have the same problems that we have now.
Let us listen for explanation. Let us seek to hear, not just respond. Let us be patient enough for the other person to be able to speak and share their story. #RedHatBlueHat #Perspective #StopArguing